Do you make these 3 mistakes with your dog?

We all want a well-mannered and relaxed dog around the house. To keep us company when we are on our own or when we have guests over. There is nothing worse or embarrassing when your dog wont leave you or your guests alone! But could it be you that is causing this behaviour?

Mistake no.1 Do you constantly talk to your dog like they are another person?

We’ve all done this, we are human and sometimes I think we just like the sound of our own voice, some more than others! We tell our pets, ‘I’m home! Did you miss me?’, ‘What have you been up to all day, wait to you hear about my day…’, ‘I’m just going out to [friends] house I wont be long’, ‘What would you like for dinner we have…’ and it goes on and on. I hope you’re laughing right now if this is you because we have all wished our pets would talk back to us, just once! But, unfortunately they never do or will because they are a dog.

Why is this so bad I hear you ask? Well for one, this is an exercise in getting things off our chest or looking for some love and attention ourselves but you are also training your dog to become an attention seeker through no fault of his/ her own. He’ll learn that paying you attention while you chat away all day long gets him something he wants too, you. You are his/her reward for just paying you attention, but then when you are busy, running late and in a rush or you have guests over, who’s still looking for attention and getting in your way? You got it!

Secondly, if your voice fills the room, day and night and becomes background noise to your dog. How does he know when you are saying the important stuff? We all learn to switch off after a while, I think they call it ‘Selective Hearing’. If your dog is paying you attention at the wrong times and not, when he is supposed to, it’s not his fault. Think ‘Does my dog need to know this information?’ before you speak.

Mistake no.2 Do you look at your dog a lot or constantly watch him?

I don’t know about you but I hate the idea of being watched. You want to keep looking over your shoulder all the time. This may come as a surprise to you but because dogs don’t speak a language, they use body language as their main form of communication. Eye contact being at the top of the list. OK here’s a little experiment for you to try with some non canine members of your family. Next time you are in a room with another human, don’t say anything and just look at them, keep your face neutral if possible and just watch them and keep making eye contact. I will guarantee you within a couple of minutes you are going to be asked ‘What?’

Do you get it yet? When ever you come in the door and look down at your furry friend and he looks back at you, you have started a conversation and he’s saying ‘what?’ (Probably what’s this nutter looking for now because they never tell me they just walk off and then they do it again and again)

Again we are rewarding attention seeking behaviour because we hold our dog in a constant non- verbal conversation which then becomes a habit. It’s one of the hardest things to do but stop looking at the dog when he doesn’t need to be in the conversation. A lot of ‘busy’ dogs are like this because they have an attention seeking owner! They only lie down and sleep when it’s time for the soaps on TV or the computer goes on. Sound familiar?

Mistake no.3 Do you tell your dog what to do All The Time?

OK this is my biggest bugbear and it’s with the humans, not the dogs. I know parents who do this too, so don’t be feeling left out anyone! You know the ones you visit or see in the park? ‘Stop doing that’, ‘come here’, ‘sit there’, ‘lie down there’, ‘wait’, ‘leave’, ‘I said No’, I could go on but I’m boring myself.

What you then create is a neurotic dog which needs to be around you all the time so you can tell it what to do or what not to do. Why? Because if it’s the only way it’s going to get your attention, good or bad, then that’s what he has to do – trying to work out what the hell the human wants it to do now.

Dog’s like children are intelligent creatures and learn by making mistakes and learning from the consequences of their own actions. If you Tell a dog or a child what to Do all the time then what are they going to learn? Exactly what you tell them and nothing else, probably. Like a robot. How about letting them learn self-control? Don’t laugh, it’s the basis for most positive reward training. Which we know to be the kindest and quickest way for anyone, human or animal to learn. Why? Because we will continue to do a behaviour in which we gain something good from doing that behavior. For example, we teach toddlers that if they say ‘Please’ they will get [name that reward*chips,lolipops,sweeties, etc*] what happens if they don’t say please? Nothing, they don’t get their nice thing. They think about it and then say Please! We aint stupid you know and neither are our dogs. Let them learn for themselves, you reward what you want to see more of, everyone’s happy!

Lets give them a break from our human world and our human ways and let them just be Canine. Be mindful of your behaviour and you will see a different behaviour from your dog if you do.

Happy dog= Happy owner

If you think this was helpful I’d love for you to like it and leave me a comment

Thank You

Bernie – The Dog Owners Coach

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14 responses to “Do you make these 3 mistakes with your dog?”

  1. unicoachingster says :

    Bernie – You’ve got the Dog Whisper beat! I recognized that I have done all these things, and I spend a lot of time with dogs. I’ll be more aware because of your good adice and more relaxed too! Thanks

  2. Christine says :

    That’s so interesting! I wasn’t aware of these mistakes. Thanks for enlightening me!

  3. Jean says :

    Thanks Bernie for the tips. I did not realize we were making some of these mistakes in our house with our dog. Great information!

  4. Michelle says :

    Bernie, thanks for addressing how our human behaviour can adversely effect our dogs and what we can do to instil positive change for both dog and owner.

  5. Michelle Lopez says :

    Things I had never heard or thought of before Bernie! Great post!

    • 4dogday says :

      Thanks Michelle, sometimes it’s just awareness that people need, we live with other species on this planet and they all dont think like us πŸ™‚

  6. Kathy Loftus says :

    Love the info and advice Bernie. To change my behaviour with my dogs will take some awareness and practice… Great post!

  7. Susy Glossop says :

    So straight forward. Thank you. I have a calm collie and a hyper pup. I am now in training! Triona shared your page and I’m grateful she did. All success with your page.

    • 4dogday says :

      You are very welcome Susy and thank you for your comment. A lot of what I teach is common sense, but we dont always think like that in our hectic lives πŸ™‚ Please feel free to ask questions on the FB page if you wish

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